Die „Hauptkunden“ von Veränderungsprozessen sind für die Initiatoren ihre eigenen Mitarbeiter, „kaufen“ diese die Ideen nicht, wird es nichts Konstruktives werden können.
Dr. Gunther Schmidt im Vorwort zu „Hypnosystemische Perspektiven im Change Management“
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Author: Johannes Faupel
Self-doubt not really is in the meaning of existence
The state of self-doubt defines some kind of absence. The absence of self-esteem.
Very basic?
Well, let’s see.
What happens if you’re in self-doubt?
You’re not sure if it’s right what you are thinking about yourself.
Or you’re about to believe that others could be right calling you an idiot.
The most important action to take is to start doubting about if you’re an idiot. Of course, you are not, but for the moment you are not sure yet you can start to doubt about your role as an idiot.
This inner voice is telling you that what you’re doing isn’t good enough, and suggesting that there has to be something better out there for you than this latest project or endeavor.
Rats.
Most people think self-doubt is only experienced by people who are not self-assured or successful. That’s a misunderstanding.
Because: self-doubt can exist regardless of whether your life looks like one big success story or total failure!
Self-doubt also plays a role in the lives of many highly successful people.
So, obviously, the seem to deal with self-doubt in a certain way.
Searching the web, you will find many instructions how to turn self doubt into self-confidence or self esteem.
But.
If it where that easy you wouldn’t read this text.
Right?
There must be something in the self doubt phenomena what does not seem to be easy to change.
As you read: it seems to be complicated to change self doubt.
Now what?
It’s easy. Just look at yourself in the mirror, and say: „you’re great“.
Wrong expectation. Because you won’t believe unless you change the pattern of self-doubts.
The first thing you need to do is get rid of your inner critic. Tell it to shut up and go away forever.
Bad advice. If the inner critiv isn’t treated well, it will punish you with even more self-doubts.
These kinds of recommendations ignore the fact that a human being is something else than a chemistry experiment or a mechanic installation.
Society has normalized self-doubt, and the consequences can be devastating.
We tell ourselves to shake it off because we’re all in this together; but that’s not always true.
We want to believe what people around us are saying, that our thoughts about feeling worthless or unloved don’t matter as long as they make sense inside of your head.
But when you feel like no one else feels those feelings too – well then who cares?
It doesn’t seem like other minds work the same way yours does, so why would anyone understand how hard life is for you anyway?
When you suffer from self-doubt, it will affect every part of your life.
Self-doubt is that little voice in the back of your head telling you that you are not good enough.
You need to learn how to change self-doubt into self-confidence.
Whow to do that?
Stupid idea?
No.
Or do you think living with the perspective of being wrong most time is an intelligent way of life?
So: Imagine that the doubts in your thoughts are there for quality reasons.
They take care all the time of thinking wise, talking intelligent and acting smart.
And if not – the chorus of the inner voices appears, and you’re struggling with the fulfilling of the idiot-prophety.